First Date – Do’s and Don’ts
First dates should be all about having fun and learning as much as you can about the other person to see if there is enough connection and chemistry for a second date and possible more.
What might seem like common sense can sometimes get lost when you’re caught up in the excitement of a first date. Before you know it, you’re trashing your ex, chatting at length about all the dates you’ve been on recently, and all your date want to do is run for the hills. Here are some easy Do’s and Don’ts for a fun, stress-free first date.
ü Do -be on time. Plan to arrive a few minutes early to allow for traffic or getting lost if you’re not familiar with the location of the agreed upon meeting spot. If something comes up and you’re running late, make a quick call so the person knows you haven’t forgotten about them.
ü Do – be excited. Excitement and positive energy is contagious. No matter what kind of day or week you’re having, let your date know you’re happy to be with them.
ü Do – be focused on your date. Turn off your cell phone or put it away if you must keep it turned on. This will allow you to focus on your date and show them you’re genuinely interested.
ü Do -be prepared. Come prepared to learn about the other person and share some about you. Some good conversation starters are the last trip you took, a club you belong to and your favourite0 weekend activity. Try to keep an equal balance between talking and listening.
x Don’t – trash your ex. You were in love with that person at some point. Your new potential “someone” wants to know you have a good relationship with your ex, especially if there are children involved.
x Don’t – try to be someone you’re not. While you’re trying to be someone else your date is missing out on the amazing person you really are. Besides the truth will come out in the end, it always does.
x Don’t – be a negative Nelly or Ned. People like to hang out with positive and confident people. Avoid potentially negative topics, like past relationships; work/family issues; politics and religion. Rather focus instead on fun topics like the last place you travelled, a good movie you saw recently, things you like to do in your spare time.
x Don’t – talk about all the dates you’ve been on lately. Ladies… we all know men are visual. When you’re talking about your ex or the last date you had, all your current date sees is you with another man… not the visual you want him to have. And guys, when you talk about other women it only makes us feel like you want to be with her and not us.
Above all – Be honest and kind. Sometimes nerves can negatively impact your first date. Unless you’re absolutely sure there is no romantic connection, arrange a 2nd date. If you are sure there is no connection then be honest and let the person know. At the end of the date simply tell the person you had a nice time but don’t feel there is a connection. Remember; treat others as you want to be treated. Happy dating everyone!!